Puppy love will last average around 3-5 months. 3 months is what i will call the ‘honeymoon’ period. That’s where true colors wont surface yet. That’s exactly the time when you will tend to only see the good things about your partner. Bad sides of your partner rarely surfaces and is carefully hide. Not until the ‘honeymoon’ period ends.

After the ‘honeymoon’ period, all the bad(hopefully not as bad) will start to surface. You will then notice all the negative side of your partner. Be it attitude, habits, or etiquette or anything else. From this on, the way you talk to each other(used to be very romantic and changed to not as romantic etc), the number of times you meet each other, the attitude towards each other and the list goes on.

Maintaining your relationship is very important if you love your partner and don’t want to lose him/her. But as the saying goes, ‘it takes two to clap’. Meaning to say that, both of you have to actually put in effort to maintain your relationship. Arguments are common in any relationship(Tell me if you can find me any couple that has been together for years and has never argued). So the both of you, hopefully the both of you are reading this, have to bear in mind that even if there are any arguments don’t ever ask for a break up.

Learn to cool down. Think about the argument. Sit down and discuss with each other. If you don’t like what your partner did(he/she went out with another person etc), express how you feel about it. Tell your partner why you don’t like and give all the reasons. And as for the partner, learn to listen first and reply later. Don’t react on impulse. Digest first and think about it.

Tell your partner of all the beautiful things that you like about him/her. And then tell him/her what you don’t really like with reasons to why is that so. Ask your partner about what he/she does and doesn’t like about you so that the both of you can change with each other. Give chances and don’t ever break promises.

Surprise your partner! Yes, everybody loves surprises. Write a poem if you have never done so and make sure that it’s original and it’s from the bottom of your heart. Again I say honesty is important. Or you can try buy him/her presents on random and put in front his/her doorstep or office. Write a hand-written letter about how much you treasure him/her. Be creative and think of a great surprise.

Don’t forget to frequently remind each other that you love each other. People tend to not really tell each other about how much they love and care for each other after certain times. If you are one of them, it’s time to bring back the old days.

Spend time with each other more often. If you’re busy, don’t forget to text and call. Show your concerns towards each other. Don’t tell me you can’t take a few short seconds to text your loved ones if you can do other things. Go out on days you are not working.Play board games like Monopoly,Uno,or do anything that’s fun. Try something new. Go kite-flying, cycling, ice skating. Anything you can think of instead of always catching the movies and stuffs like that. Be different!

Keep photos of each other. Lots of photos like a few albums and more! So that each time you see the photos, you will have good everlasting memories of each other. And i must repeat, don’t ever think about breakup if you argue. Cool down and come to a conclusion. There’s bound to be a solution for every problem.If your partner gets angry, don’t get all angry too. Why? Because bombs and bombs will cause a huge explosion. It will be another war..! Let your partner cool down first and then talk about it.

Signing off
AyiE